Happiness is something you need to become successful, not the other way around.
"It turns out that our brains are literally hardwired to perform at their best not when they are negative or even neutral, but when they are positive." - Shawn Achor, The Happiness Advantage
You are lying about being happy. We do it every day when someone asks how you are doing, or how your job is, or how the family is doing. “It’s great, thanks for asking.” Chances are you have already done it at least once today. I am not advocating diving into a monologue about why you are not happy when someone asks politely but asking that you do something to BECOME happy.
Tony Robbins talks about your “state” and how we feel right now mentally and emotionally will determine how we look at life. If you are unhappy when you kids walk into the room, you might get short with them opposed to seeing love coming right at you.
If you have ever read Mindset by Carol Dweck, you will see this same emphasis on positivity as she talks about “Growth Mindset.” The principle is that your outcomes in life are not fixed, but you always can grow. And “the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life.” With the growth mindset, you believe the hand you are dealt in life is the STARTING point for development.
So the next time someone asks you how you are doing and you have to lie to say something positive take that as a starting point to develop happiness. It might not be there today, but that is ok if your mindset and your state are focused on developing into something better.
HAPPINESS is not the belief that we don’t need to change; it is the realization that we can! - Shawn Achor